Words of Wednesday

A story worth sharing – a reminder to self on our parenting skills today and how would it affect our children as an adult tomorrow.

One young academically  excellent person went to apply for a managerial position  in a big company. He passed the first interview,  the director did the last interview, made the last  decision.

The director discovered from the CV  that the youth’s academic achievements were excellent  all the way, from the secondary school until the  postgraduate research, never had a year when he did not  score.

The director asked, “Did you obtain any  scholarships in school?” The youth answered  “none”.

The director asked, ” Was it your father  who paid for your school fees?” The youth answered, “My  father passed away when I was one year old, it was my  mother who paid for my school fees.”

The director  asked, ” Where did your mother work?” The youth  answered, “My mother worked as clothes cleaner. The  director requested the youth to show his hands. The  youth showed a pair of hands that were smooth and  perfect.

The director asked, ” Have you ever  helped your mother wash the clothes before?” The  youth answered, “Never, my mother always wanted me to  study and read more books. Furthermore, my mother can  wash clothes faster than me.”

The director said,  “I have a request. When you go back today, go  and clean your mother’s hands, and then see me  tomorrow morning.”

The youth felt that his chance  of landing the job was high. When he went back, he  happily requested his mother to let him clean her hands.  His mother felt  strange, happy but with mixed feelings, she showed her hands to the kid.

The youth cleaned his mother’s  hands slowly. His tear fell as he did that. It was the first time  he noticed that his mother’s hands were so wrinkled, and  there were so many bruises in her hands. Some bruises  were so painful that his mother shivered when they  were cleaned with water.

This was the first time  the youth realized that it was this pair of hands that  washed the clothes everyday to enable him to pay the  school fee. The bruises in the mother’s hands were the  price that the mother had to pay for his graduation,  academic excellence and his future. After  finishing the cleaning of his mother hands, the youth  quietly washed all the remaining clothes for his  mother.

That night, mother and son talked for a  very long time.

Next morning, the youth went to  the director’s office.

The Director noticed the  tears in the youth’s eyes, asked: ” Can you tell  me what have you done and learned yesterday in your  house?”

The youth answered, ” I cleaned my  mother’s hand, and also finished cleaning all the  remaining clothes.”

The Director asked, ” please  tell me your feelings.”

The youth said,

Number 1: I know now what is appreciation. Without  my mother, there would not the successful me today.

Number 2: by working together and helping my mother, only I now  realize how difficult and tough it is to get something  done.

Number 3: I have come to appreciate the importance  and value of family relationship.

The director  said, ” This is what I am looking for to be my  manager.
I want to recruit a person who can  appreciate the help of others, a person who knows the  sufferings of others to get things done, and a person  who would not put money as his only goal in life. You  are hired.

Later on, this young person worked  very hard, and received the respect of his subordinates.  Every employee worked diligently and as a team. The  company’s performance improved tremendously.

A  child, who has been protected and habitually given  whatever he wanted, would develop “entitlement  mentality” and would always put himself first.

He would  be ignorant of his parent’s efforts. When he starts to work, he assumes that every person must listen to him,  and when he becomes a manager, he would never know the  sufferings of his employees and would always blame  others.

For this kind of people, who may be good  academically, may be successful for a while, but  eventually would not feel sense of achievement.

He will  grumble and be full of hatred and fight for more. If we  are this kind of protective parents, are we really  showing love or are we destroying the kid  instead?

You can let your kid live in a big  house, eat a good meal, learn piano, watch a big screen  TV. But when you are cutting grass, please let them  experience it.

After a meal, let them wash their plates  and bowls together with their brothers and sisters. It  is not because you do not have money to hire a maid, but  it is because you want to love them in a right way.

You  want them to understand, no matter how rich their  parents are, one day their hair will grow gray, same as  the mother of that young person.

The most important  thing is your kid learns how to appreciate the effort  and experience the difficulty and learns the ability to  work with others to get things done.

Source: an email from a dear colleague.

Happy Wednesday peeps!

-Pu3-

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