Done with potty training Z

Yes you heard me right. We finally made it! Success PT at 3 years 8 months old.

We started potty training Z seriously masa dia bersunat on 3 November 2014. At first he refused the briefs and preferred the pull-up diapers. The diaper stayed dry the whole day and he knows when it is time to go to the toilet. Ada la sekali dua terbabas jugak atas sofa (eeekk!) and atas lantai. Mostly sebab dia tengah ralit main or watching tv/ipad.

Then after 4 months of training, he managed to go diaper free and wearing briefs. Day and night! Weehoo! Ayah dia gumbira sebab tak payah beli diapers dah. Hehe!!

While training we had a few challenges like during car rides we had to stop at petrol stations or city R&R. Cuba bayangkan my anxious-ness when he said “nak kencingggg, nak berakkkk” when we are in a traffic jam? Whoaa! Mencabar sungguh!

But my ultimate challenge was of course the night time training. I had to be discipline enough to ensure he doesn’t go to bed without going to the toilet first. If he terlena somewhere else, like on the couch, in the car, I had to take him to the loo and force him to pee while sleeping. Alahai kesian gile masa ni. Tersengguk-sengguk pejam mata sambil kencing. And if he can’t go, he would cry asking me to carry him to his bed. “Tak jadi mama, kencing tak jadi datang.” Hahaha!

And I also had to set my alarm at 2am and 4am every night to wake up and take him to the loo. Angkat dia and put him on the toilet seat making sure he doesn’t fall. But yes, accidents still happened though. After all of the above!! Ada gak time mama dia terlelap, maka basahlah tilam. Lucky he’s still sleeping in his babycot (converted to toddler bed). So tak banyak la kerja sangat. Cuba bayangkan kalau tilam queen size mama ayah itu! Hoh! Sakit jiwa nak cuci.

Finally, after a few weeks of dry mattres and dry pants, I am convinced that he’s is fully in control of his bladder. I no longer need to wake up in the middle of the night to take him to pee. He is also able to hold it in if we are in a traffic jam or somewhere yang tak ada toilet. “Takpe mama, adik tunggu kejap balik rumah”.

Awww, my big boy. Thanks for catching up real quick. Mommy can sleep well now at night. I need my so-called beauty sleep back!

Z at 3y8m

Z at 3y8m

-Pu3-

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Z’s first school

7 January 2015 was Z’s first day to Treetop House. We chose the same route Abang IY went 2 years ago. We believe a play-based school is a great way to introduce kids to the real school later.

A few months before school starts, we kept telling him about school so that he will be mentally ready for it. Everytime lalu depan sekolah, beriya-iya lah kami ni cakap tu sekolah adik, sekolah adik best. Abang nye pun semangat bercerita.

So the first day was fine. He was aware of the whole morning fiasco bersiap ke sekolah. Bangun pagi tadahal, happy gumbira. IY was still on holiday, so dia pun tag along hantar adik ke sekolah. When we arrive, the teachers pun excited and still kenal IY from 2 years ago. Ada teachers yang still kenal me, “ooohh is this Ilhan’s little baby brother that you dukung dulu everytime you send him?” Yes, this is THE baby. All grown up and ready for school!

And what a co-incident, Z’s class teacher is IY’s class teacher dulu. So imagine how happy I was nak tinggalkan Z with someone we are familiar with. We enrolled Z to a half-day programme i.e. from 9am to 3pm (instead of 9-1 macam IY). The reason is because we wanted to synchronize the pickup time supaya align dengan IY yang balik pukul 4 everyday.

Little did we know Z was not ready for that.

On the second day, I received a call from school saying that Z cried during the afternoon session. He was fine in the morning. But after lunch, when they change the classroom for afternoon activities, he started to cry. Menangis sampai tertidur. At first I thought this is normal, but when he still cries even after day 4 (but only during the afternoon session), I figured he wasn’t ready for long hours yet. I had a chance to peek and it breaks my heart seeing him crying like that. Macam lost and takut. Walaupun the teachers tak marah dia sebab tantrum macam tu (they were very sabar), I see that he’s a distraction to the class dengan high pitch voice tu. So we decided to pull him out from the afternoon programme and stick to the normal 4 hours programme je.

Things get much better after that. Except for the drama peluk kaki nangis during the morning goodbyes. He’s just too clingy lah. He was 100% okay ONLY after day 11. Only then he could wave me bye with A SMILE! No more tears and happy to go to school. Now dah tak sabar pegi sekolah. Bila weekend “adik rindu cikgu adik lah.”

Phew Z! With you, it’s always that first-time-mommy-feeling moment.

-Pu3-

2014 in one go

It’s the 20th-ish day of 2015. So how was my two-oh-fourteen? Here’s a recap. Better late than never they say!

January

  • Nothing much in January. IY started his 6yo and final year kindy.
  • I was busy with prepping my brother’s house to be rented. Repair works and all the jazz was kind of fun. Tiring, but rewarding. It’s my first time being involved in this landlord-tenant business. Making sure the house is in a good condition and ada value for tenant. Interesting business. I might want to venture doing this property thingy when I retire early nanti.

February

  • IY started his art class and taekwando lessons. But in 2015, he suddenly started losing interest in the art class and I didn’t want to force him. Rugi duit bayar class yang dia malas nak pergi. And if paksa dia pergi, dia tak happy. What’s the point? So 2015 will only be his football training at The Goal Academy. Swimming masih dalam perancangan nak stop jugak sebab kat sekolah dah ada lessons jugak. Planning to enrol Z for the football training once he turn 4 nanti.

March

  • Sold our first property and boy that was such a relief. We managed to use the fund to pay off the car loan, other debts and fixing our current home. And some investments sikit. Alhamdulillah, rezeki.
  • MH370 happened. Need I say more? I don’t think so.

April

  • Gee had his thyroidectomy. Removing his thyroid gland. He’s hyperthyroid-free now!

May

  • IY turned 6.

June

  • Z turned 3
  • We had the robot party for the boys. A full blast birthday party was held. Fuhh nasib baik la tak buat selalu. Penat gilers. I remember that I never wrote an entry about the party kan? Oh well, dah terlambat, cerita basi dah. Kekeke! But this year we are not planning any party for sure. Layan dengan birthday trips pulak.

July

  • We turned 9. Happy anniversary!
  • My little brother went to Perth for his degree. Sorang lagi adik yang jauh di mata.
  • Hari Raya road trip up north. Same ‘ol same ‘ol.
  • MH17 happened. Let’s not go there. I just can’t.

August

  • I turn 34. Tua dah.
  • We finally installed fake grass to our tiny garden. I have always wanted to have a clean neat garden tapi ibu jari ini tak berapa nak hijau. Hehe! Sedih nye tanam apa pun mati je. Chronic sungguh. Last-last we decided to just put a fake carpet grass and see how we manage. Kalau tak jadi jugak, tak tau la nak cakap apa. Well, so far it’s been 5 months and we are okay. Haha! Ada la jugak case kucing berak sekali dua tapi small matter lah. Check out www.inspiregrass.com.my in case you are wondering.
Our tiny garden. The only yang hidup subur are the daun pandan and that pokok. Self-grown je. They are the survivors. Haha!

Our tiny garden. The only yang hidup subur are the daun pandan and that pokok. Self-grown  pulak. They are the survivors. Haha!

September

  • IY’s first video clip was aired for the first time during the World Summit on Media for Children. He went to shoot the video masa bulan puasa in July. I forgot to blog about this. Well, last year memang mojo blogging agak kurang. For the summit, there was an official video clip and IY was selected to play a part dalam tu. The song was by Helen Yap and sang by Atilia. The video is on Youtube. Here’s the link if nak tengok. Z was selected too tapi he was too shy and didn’t want to cooperate. Halahh adik oi!
  • Our JB-Singapore trip.

October

  • Our Kuantan trip. Went to Kuala Gandah to the elephant sanctuary. The boys had fun feeding the elephants.
Elephant feeding. We couldn't see gajah mandi kat river coz the sungai cetek that day.

Gajah makan tebu. We couldn’t see gajah mandi kat river coz the sungai cetek that day.

November

  • Gee turned 35. Pun sudah tua.
  • Z was circumsized on 3 November 2014. He was 3y 5m. I haven’t blogged about it. But basically he had an infection on his birdie. Same classic case like IY in 2012. Luckily we were more prepared this time sebab dah ada experience dengan si abang dulu. It took Z 10 days to heal compared to abang’s longer recovery period. Z had the exactly same method like IY. Under full GA and laser (clean) cut. This time Dr Razak put a polystyrene cup in Z’s brief to prevent from the wound to touch any surface. Sebab tu cepat heal.

    Taken before the surgery. All cheery and happy. Lepas keluar OT he was crying sebab uncomfortable. Boy that was an unforgettable experience handling OT aftermath. Satu ward boleh dengar dia jerit!

    Taken before the surgery. All cheery and happy. Lepas keluar OT he was crying sebab uncomfortable. Boy that was an unforgettable experience handling the OT aftermath. Satu ward boleh dengar dia jerit!

December

  • Z is fully potty trained! Yay! Sejak dia bersunat we went all the way to fully get him diaper-free. When he started school in January 2015, we stopped buying the pull ups and nekad to diaper-free malam pulak. Agak zombie la maknye ni checking him tengah-tengah malam buta and angkat dia ke toilet. Sian dia kena paksa kencing sambil mata tertutup. Haha!
  • My girlfriends and I planned a few playdates activities for our kids sempena cuti sekolah. We went to the Farm In The City, Jumpstreet Trampoline Indoor Park, baking class at Wondermilk and ended with the kids culinary class at Kidz & Creme (Aaron Aziz’s cafe). No, mommies did not get to see AA. Haha! But the kids had fun with the activities. Si abang kakak dekat class, si adik-adik buat hal sendiri main together. Mommies pulak catch up bersembang dan makan of course!
On their last day at Kidz & Creme

On their last day at Kidz & Creme

I guess that wraps up my 2014.

Hoping for a good 2015 ahead.

-Pu3-

Salam Aidilfitri 2014

Selamat Hari Raya Aidilfitri from the four of us — Shazli, Puteri, IY and ZU.

Minta ampun dah maaf if I have offended anyone virtually or personally. Yang  baik semua from Allah and yang tak elok tu semua dari kami.

May Allah forgive us all.

This is the best we could get. Don't even ask where are the sampings and songkok. I just gave up! *pulls hair*

This is the best we could get. Don’t even ask where are the sampings and songkok. And the boys are not even looking at the camera! I just gave up! *pulls hair*

-Pu3-

Zayyan is 3

Baby Z turned 3 a couple of weeks a go. Wow, three! Obviously a baby no more.

Since his birthday fell on a weekday, I figured it would be awesome to let him have tiny party at his daycare with his mates. Well, as IY suggested “Mama, abang rasa kita kena buat birthday party untuk adik. Kesian adik takde party robot macam abang.” Heyy, the robot party was for both of you. Banyak cantik nak buat party asing-asing. Pengsan mama ayah!

Anywaayyyy, I ordered some brownies this time instead of a cake. Simply because tak puas makan those brownies masa robot party. Well, the ‘party’ at daycare was not really a party per se. Just one round of happy birthday singing during tea time. Enough to make everyone happy. Ahhh, the joy of being kids. Nyanyi Happy Birthday pun dah happy dah.

Birthday boy!

See that happy face!

Random milestones of this boy:

1. He’s quite the opposite of the big brother. A loud person at home with his antics, tantrums and cakap-tak-berhenti but a very shy and takes-a-while-to warm-up when he’s in public. Pretty much like the father.

2. He’s very attached to me. He still cries at daycare on his moody days despite being there for more than 2 years now. It’s not that he hates the daycare, he just wants mama. And it breaks my heart everytime.

3.  He’s the typical 2nd child. Every mommy with a second child would understand me. *insert emoji picit kepala here*

4. He’s not a picky eater. Thank God! He might not like what he eats, but he tries. Unlike IY who just rejects bulat-bulat anything yang tak menarik dia mata dia. Z would just open up and makan. If he decides he doesn’t like it, then only he would spit it out. But he’s a small eater. Dia makan sikit tapi kerap.

5. Still in diapers and bottle. Still a WIP for mommy.

6. His big bro is his idol. Apa yang abang buat, dia akan ikut.

The other day we brought him to the IY’s soccer school for a trial class. Z wanted to join the big bro since forever! Everytime he follows abang to training, we would occupy an empty court and play ball. He couldn’t wait for his 3rd birthday for this. Well, that’s what I thought lah kan. Guess what happened during the trial class? Please refer to point no 1 above. Mak aiii! He refused to run with the rest of the kids, he sulked when the coach asked him to sit in a circle and the coach finally had to hold his hand and run together with him! After 15-minutes, the kids had a break for water and guess what? Z took his water bottle and ran straight out of the court. Tak masuk-masuk dah. Haha! We decided he wasn’t ready yet. Nasib baik pegi trial class dulu tak payah bayar fees or anything yet. Phew!

I foresee a hard time to playschool next January. *emoji lap peluh di dahi here*

Another round of singing at home. Whatever makes you happy kid!

Another round of singing at home. Whatever makes you happy kid!

Happy Birthday Adik!

-Pu3-

Library

IY came home from school the other day asking “Mama, library tu macam mana? Banyak buku ke?”. I explained to him all about library and he was just too excited to go to one. I figured it’s about time we introduce him to the place.

So I googled for libraries around town yang child-friendly. I haven’t been to the library for sooooo long since the uni days. And of course, I have NEVER been to the kids section before. I don’t know what to expect. I want a place yang cantik kemas bersih and paling penting boleh buat bising! I know my kids won’t even stay still for a second! And they are loud. IY pulak can’t read senyap-senyap. I want him to read out loud sebab he’s still new at this. I need to hear him to correct him if needed. So to be in a kid’s library yang senyap is ridiculous if you ask me.

I posted on IG and FB about my quest to find the library and a lot my friends and followers have suggested PPAS (Perbadanan Perpustakaan Awam Selangor) or also known as Perpustakaan Raja Tun Uda in Shah Alam. At first I was like whoaaa Shah Alam! Jauh nye. So I senyap la kejap. But IY kept pestering me with “bila nak pergi library ni?” or “abang tak pernah pun pergi library (sila baca dengan nada sedih)”. Oh anak!

We finally gave in and decided to go to Shah Alam. And it wasn’t that far actually. Waze-d ourselves to the location and the journey was about 30 mins from our Cheras home.

The tree I was talking about

How cool is the tree? Spot Z who’s ready to run around!

The place is super fun! And it’s noisy. The have a corner with a small stage and also a corner with a big tv complete with bean bags for the kids to laze around. When we arrived, Cloudy With A Chance of Meatball was on. IY was this close to sit and watch but I said “kalau abang datang sini nak tengok tv, jom balik bukak HBO cite ni dah 10x ulang”. Haha! So he moved on to the shelves and find books to read. He was like so rambang mata seeing all the books!

He has this habit of wanting me to listen when he reads. I he finds me looking at the phone or doing something else, he would say "mama, kena focus kat anak". Oh my!

He has this habit of wanting me to listen when he reads. I he finds me looking at the phone or doing something else, he would say “mama, kena focus kat anak”. Oh my!

There’s a big fake tree in the library where we could read books under it. Or in Z’s case, we could golek-golek macam cerita Hindustan. Hehe! Speaking of Z, he was not interested in the books even for a bit! Sibuk berlari from one end to another and jumping and laughing like nobody’s business. Maybe he thinks this is Kizsports kot. Tinggal tak de slides and trampoline je!

Don't be fooled by this cheeky smile. I was trying hard to make him focus on the book but he didn't even blink!

Don’t be fooled by this cheeky smile. I was trying hard to make him focus on the book but he didn’t even blink. Sorry mommy, playing and running is more fun!

Clearly I wasn't ready! Sheeshhhh ayah!

Clearly I wasn’t ready! Sheeshhhh ayah!

Was looking for him when he didn't come back to the tree. Found him somewhere at the corner reading. Awww!!

Was looking for him when he didn’t come back to the tree. Found him somewhere at the corner reading. Awww!!

We lasted for about 2 hours until both boys started to run around and bergolek-golek. I knew that’s the que to go home. We had fun and I’m glad the boys’ first visit to a library was a nice library. We might try the ones nearer to our place in KL and hopefully it’s gonna be as good as this one.

Singgah Setia City Mall for a quick playground time and early dinner. Oh I love this big field here! Kite flying, bubble chasing and pefect picnic spot! You lucky Shah Alam people!!

Singgah Setia City Mall for a quick playground time and early dinner. Oh I love this big field here! Kite flying, bubble chasing and perfect picnic spot! You lucky Shah Alam people!!

-Pu3-

Potty Training Z

…is in progress. And guess what? It’s not planned at all!!

Masa time IY dulu, we had a rough time keeping him off the diapers until he turned 3.9yo. Itupun sebab dia nak masuk kindy. We just went cold turkey.

This time with Z, it’s a breeze. He just came to me one day and said “Mama, adik nak kencing. Kat toilet.” Oh bahagia nya rasa!! And we jumped with joy when he peed in the bowl. Even IY cheered for the little brother. Dah macam sukaneka pun ada gayanya lompat-lompat bagi semangat. Haha!

So far, he’s still wearing pull ups. We named the pull ups as “spender”. Or as Z named it “spender macam abang”. Awww, he’s really looking up to the big brother. IY is the major contributor to this potty success. Credit to Abang!

I don’t plan to put him on the training pants yet. Tak larat nak handle “accidents” (I don’t have a maid, remember?). But we do treat the pull ups macam training pants though. Asking him every now and then if he needs to pee. And for the “big business” purposes of course. Haha!

Hopefully he will be 100% diaper-free by his 3rd birthday. Senang nak gi jalan nanti. Yay!

-Pu3-

Handling tantrums

In our case, it’s Mr Z’s tantrum.

Zayyan is now 2.9yo. Such a manja boy he is. But when he throws a tantrum, it doesn’t look pretty. Since we never had this kind of situation with IY, this a new learning curve for us as parents.

How do I describe Z’s melt down? Hmmm let’s see. He screams when he doesn’t get what he wants. Or if we don’t attend to him immediately. He doesn’t take “please wait” that well.

How do we deal with him? Certainly no spanking. Although I do “babab” my kids but only on the buttocks. I might scream and yell in the house when I’m angry ( which I’m reallyyyy not proud of and I know I need to improve on that), but no pukul. Anak bawah 6 tahun perlu dibelai. Bukan dipukul. If I get too angry or frustrated, I will just walk away. Calm myself first, istighfar banyak-banyak. Sebab masa kita tengah marah, syaitan berlumba-lumba datang cucuk jarum. Then, I’ll just keep quiet and stare at him. Stare with loving eyes not angry eyes. Eye level mesti sama dengan dia. Kalau dia baring, kita baring sama and look at him. With Zayyan, ignore strategy is the best tactic so far. At home, if he cries his eyes out or scream at the top of his lungs wanting what he wants, I’ll just walk away and ignore. Probably in an hour or so, senyap la dia. I pernah took pictures and videos of him crying. Marah betul dia but I did it anyway. And I played the video over and over showing him “haa tengok sapa tengah nangis dalam phone ni?”. He immediately stop crying!

In public, it’s tougher. Sebab mana boleh nak walk away je kan. Kena tebalkan muka dengan orang ramai. Just laugh it off sambil cakap sorry to the audience.

Zayyan once put up a show kat Labuan Airport. He wanted to ride on those RM5 for 5 minutes motorbikes pusing-pusing kat open area. The boys had one ride each. Then when it was time to go, he screamed bloody murder wanting more! I just picked him up and carried him away from the scene. God knows how much energy needed to do that. I just let him cry sambil peluk dia ketat-ketat. Later, he was still struggling and I just gave up. I passed him to Gee and went to the toilet to “walk away”.

Gee distracted him with things around the departure hall. Panjat tiang lah, bergayut kat railing lah, basically benda-benda yang dia suka and it worked! Phew! I came back and see a less tantrum boy. He requested for milk and doze off. Woke up half an hour later. Started crying again (but not screaming, just merengek) “Adik nak naik motor”. *sigh*. Halaahhhhh dia ingat balik. Again, Gee distracted him with food and the surroundings (luckily boleh nampak plane from the boarding area). Ada modal la si ayah nak melayan anak. So we found the formula. It is to distract him with other things that he likes. Although it is not easy, so far it works.

I find that working as a team with your partner is important. One parent will usually be the calmer one in each situation. Let the calmer parent handle the kid. Yang sorang lagi tengah mendidih, please go somewhere else. Well, if you are in the car, for example, memang tak boleh nak pegi mana kan. Just keep quiet and jangan masuk campur when the other parent is “working”. And of course, please support and complement each other. If your partner tengah naik angin, remind him/her to istighfar and sabar.

Dulu IY pernah tumpahkan vitagen atas sofa and I went crazy. Only when Gee said to me “Hey hey…it’s just vitagen. Awat marah anak sampai macam tu?”. Which is true. It’s.just.the.freaking.orange.flavoured.vitagen. *sigh*. I regret yelling at IY. Kesian dia. Mak meroyan tak tentu pasal. Sayang sofa ke sayang anak?

Last but not least, doa.

Doa supaya kita diberikan kesabaran in handling the kids. Doa supaya anak-anak lembut hati bila kita didik dia. Patience is virtue. Bila anak-anak tidur, usap kepala dia and tell them how much we love them and we want them to be a good boy/girl. Minda separuh sedar works wonders!

Thanks for reading. Although this article is actually a reminder to myself. Sebab I feel that I need to jot this down to read again in future.

More patience, less yelling. Watch that tone, mommy.

-Pu3-

Taekwando

Hello February!

So what’s up? What’s new?

We enrolled IY into a taekwando class at Adni. He was super excited! Well, he’s always excited when it comes to school and such. Alhamdulillah. Teruskan excited sampai grad ye nak!

Class is 1x each week after the normal school time. Every Monday we pick him up a little late and kena bawak snacks sendiri. Usually on normal school hours, the teachers prefer no bento coz they want the kids to learn to eat together whatever the school provides. And also to teach the kids to not be a picky eater. Well, I guess that works on IY. He’s much better at food selection now and open for trying new type of food. Kalau tak, memang jenuh la nak ajar dia makan variety.  For taekwando class je kena bawak bekal snacks for after training session. Usually, IY bawak cookies or bread.

Z on the other hand lately kept asking if he can go to school like Abang. He’s pretty much a chatter box now. Pelat here and there, but we could still understand him nevertheless. We discussed a possibility of playschool but so far we have not decided on anything yet. Apa-apa pun tunggu he turns 3 dulu this June. Oh my, he’s going to be 3! How time flies. My baby is no more a baby. I sometimes feel like wanting to freeze the time and go on slow mo mode, just for the sake to enjoy their growing up moments.

Anyway, here’s the latest of IY with his taekwando uniform. Recycle gambar from my Instagram. More updated pictures of the boys and of us on my Instagram if you feel like following. Blog has been abandoned (sorry blog). But I try to update as much as possible for memory sake.

See you in March? (Errkk!)

Wachaaaa!!!

Wachaaaa!!!

-Pu3-