An article worth reading: You Just Broke Your Child. Congratulations.

You Just Broke Your Child. Congratulations.. (click to read on the original page),

This is an article worth sharing. Not just for daddies. For mommies too. Take a few minutes to digest and reflect.

A reminder for me that our kids are just a loan from Allah and our amanah. What we do (or dont do) today to them will shape the person they become tomorrow.

Oh and how I am guilty for not being patient enough with them sometimes. Sabar mommy, sabar.

Astaghfirullah.

-Pu3-

Here goes:

I feel a need to write this post after what I witnessed at Costco yesterday. Forgive me for another post written in desperation and anger. Please read all the way to the end. I know it’s long, but this is something that needs to be said. It’s something that needs to be heard. It’s something that needs to be shared.

As Noah and I stood in line to make a return, I watched as a little boy (he couldn’t have been older than six) looked up at his dad and asked very timidly if they could buy some ice cream when they were done. The father glared him down, and through clenched teeth, growled at the boy to ”leave him alone and be quiet”. The boy quickly cowered to the wall where he stood motionless and hurt for some time.

The line slowly progressed and the child eventually shuffled back to his father as he quietly hummed a childish tune, seemingly having forgotten the anger his father had just shown. The father again turned and scolded the boy for making too much noise. The boy again shrunk back and cowered against the wall, wilted.

I was agitated. I was confused. How could this man not see what I see? How could this man not see what a beautiful spirit stood in his shadow? How could this man be so quick to stub out all happiness in his own boy? How could this man not cherish the only time he’ll ever have to be everything to this boy? To be the person that matters most to this boy?

We were three from the front now, and the boy started to come towards his dad yet again. His dad immediately stepped out of the line, jammed his fingers into his son’s collar bones until he winced in pain, and threatened him. “If you so much as make a sound or come off of that wall again, I promise you’re going to get it when we get home.” The boy again cowered against the wall. This time, he didn’t move. He didn’t make a sound. His beautiful face pointed down, locked to the floor and expressionless. He had been broken. And that’s how his father wanted it. He didn’t want to deal with him, and breaking him was the easiest way.

And we wonder why so many of our kids grow up to be screwed up.

I’m going to be blunt. People see my relationship with Noah, and quite often put me up on a pedestal or sing my praises for loving him more than most dads love their own kids.

Damn it. I don’t understand that, and I’ll never understand that. Loving my son, building my son, touching my son, playing with my son, being with my son… these aren’t tasks that only super dads can perform. These are tasks that every dad should perform. Always. Without fail. There is nothing special about me. I am a dad who loves his son and would literally do anything for his well-being, safety, and health. I would gladly take a rake in the face or a jackhammer to my feet before I cut my own son down or make him feel small.

[sigh] I am far from a perfect dad. And I always will be. But I’m a damn good dad, and my son will always feel bigger than anything life can throw at him. Why? Because I get it. I get the power a dad has in a child’s life, and in a child’s level of self-belief. I get that everything I ever do and ever say to my son will be absorbed, for good or for bad. What I don’t get is how some dads don’t get it…

Dads. Do your faces light up when you first see your child in the morning or when you come home from work? Do you not understand that a child’s entire sense of value can revolve around what they see in your face when you first see them?

Dads. Do you not realize that a child is what you tell them they are? That people almost always become what they are labeled?  Was whatever your child just did really the “dumbest thing you’ve ever seen somebody do”? Was it really the “most ridiculous thing they ever could have done”? Do you really believe that your child is an idiot? Because she now does. Think about that. Because you said it, she now believes it. Bravo.

Dads. Do you honestly expect anybody to believe that you can’t find 20 minutes to step away from your computer or turn off the television to play with your child? It has to happen every single day. Do you not understand that children will hinge their entire facet of trust on whether or not their dad plays with them and how involved he is when he plays with them? Do you know the damage you do by not playing with your children every day?

Dads. Should anybody buy into this silly notion that anger is sometimes or often necessary? Do you not understand that anger is almost always an emotion for people who wish to control others while simultaneously failing to control themselves? Do you not know that there are incredible books and courses that can teach you better methods? Most importantly, do you not see the speed at which a child is crushed or becomes completely defiant when anger rules the roost? Are you that desensitized to the luminosity of your child’s spirit that it doesn’t crush you completely when they flinch or cower in your presence? Is that really what you want your child to do? To fear you?

Dads. Do you not realize that your child needs to feel your skin on his? Do you not realize the incredible and powerful bond that skin on skin contact with your daughter will give you? Do you not understand the permanent mental connections that are made when you stroke your son’s bare back or rub your daughter’s bare tummy while you tell bedtime stories? And if any idiot says anything about that being inappropriate, you’re gonna get kicked in the face, first by me, and then by every other good dad out there. Touching your child is your duty as a father.

Dads. Wake up! These precious souls that have been put into your care are unique and so very sensitive. Everything you say or don’t say will impact their ability, success, and happiness throughout their entire lives.

Do you not realize that your kids are going to make mistakes, and a lot of them? Do you not realize the damage you do when you push your son’s nose into his mishaps or make your daughter feel worthless because she bumped or spilled something? Do you have any idea how easy it is to make your child feel abject? It’s as simple as letting out the words, “why would you do that!?” or “how many times have I told you…”

Let me ask you this. Have you ever looked into the swollen eyes of a parent who’s child has just died?

I have.

Have you ever cried through a child’s funeral?

I have.

Have you ever touched a wooden box with a child inside? A permanent tomb from which another laugh or giggle will never sound?

I have.

If you want the motivation to be the best parent on earth, do that just one time. I pray you never have to.

Dads. It’s time to tell our kids that we love them. Constantly. It’s time to show our kids that we love them. Constantly. It’s time to take joy in their twenty-thousand daily questions and their inability to do things as quickly as we’d like. It’s time to take joy in their quirks and their ticks. It’s time to take joy in their facial expressions and their mispronounced words. It’s time to take joy in everything that our kids are…

It’s time to stand up and ask what we can do to be better dads. It’s time to get our priorities straight. It’s time to come home and actually be a dad.

Dads. It’s time to show our sons how to properly treat a woman. It’s time to show our daughters how a girl should expect be treated. It’s time to show forgiveness and compassion. It’s time to show our children empathy. It’s time to break social norms and teach a healthier way of life! It’s time to teach good gender roles and to ditch the unnecessary ones. Does it really matter if your son likes the color pink? Is it going to hurt anybody? Do you not see the damage it inflicts to tell a boy that there is something wrong with him because he likes a certain color? Do we not see the damage we do in labeling our girls “tom boys” or our boys “feminine” just because they have their own likes and opinions on things? Things that really don’t matter?

Dads. Speak softly to your sons. Speak calmly to your daughters. Who do you want your child to be? Do you want him to be the kid at school that sits by himself with absolutely no friends or self esteem? Or do you want him to be the kid running for class office and feeling like he deserves to win it? Do we not see that we have the power to give that to our children? Do we not see that we have the power to teach our children the tools of societal survival?

Dads. Do we not see the influence we have when we say we believe in one thing, but our children see us living something else? Do we not realize how little we encourage our children to actually decide what they believe, declare what they believe, and then live by it? Whether it’s religion, politics, sports, or societal norms. It is not our place to tell our kids what to think. It is our place to teach our kids to think correctly. If we do this, we need have no fear of what they will decide for themselves and how strongly they’ll stand behind it. A man will follow his own convictions to his death, but he’ll only follow another man’s convictions until he steps in manure.

Damn it, Dads. Every child has the innate right to ask for ice cream without being belittled and broken. Every child has the innate right to do so without being made to cower in the corner because the man who is supposed to be his hero is actually a small, small man altogether. Every child has the innate right to be happy, and giggle, and laugh, and play. Why aren’t you letting them? Every child on earth has the right to a dad who thinks before he speaks; a dad who understands the great power that has been given to him to ultimately shape another human being’s life; a dad who loves his child more than he loves his television shows or sports games; a dad who loves his child more than his material junk; a dad who loves his child more than his time. Every child deserves a superhero dad.

Maybe the truth is that a lot of dads don’t deserve their kids.

Maybe the truth is that a lot of dads aren’t really dads at all.

I apologize for the heatedness of my post. I believe a part of me feels like a coward for not saying something to the man in front of me at Costco. Consider this post to be my penance. Perhaps a part of me feels that if even one person reads this and decides to be a better dad, it was worth every second that I spent typing it. If one child has a better life because something in my words stirred their father to step up their game, then it was worth every ounce of begging and pleading with you to share this with others, of which I am inevitably going to be guilty.

Dads. Children are gifts. They are not ours for the breaking. They are ours for the making. So stand up with me and show the world that there are a lot of good dads around.

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Parenting Tips

Somebody shared this article on my FB last night. Thought it would be beneficial to share it here as well. This is taken from http://www.saatakukaupilih.blogspot.com.  Credit to this mommy. I have edited a few lines to highlight the gist of her entry.

10 Tips Berguna Dari Child Psychiatrist

1. Biasakan dan kerapkan bawak anak main pasir, buih, rumput, dan plastesin.

Kalau boleh biar dia sentuh guna tangan dan kaki. Biar dia exposed dan touched dengan texture pasir, rumput, buih, etc. Benda-benda tu sangat merangsang motor skills dan sensory skills anak-anak.

2. Don’t expose to too much things in a box.

“Things in a box” tu macam, tivi, ipad, tablet, phone, games etc. Yang ni paling ngeri.
Aku tengok sendiri dengan mata kepala aku, masa pergi special school Dr Sherine tu, ada sorang budak Australian ni. Umur baru 4 tahun. Jari tangan dia, kaki dia, lutut dia, semacam tak normal. Tak tahu nak describe macam mana.
Tapi korang nak tahu apa sebab dia jadi camtu?

Sebab too much exposed to computer light and touch screen!!
Scary nak mampos hoiii.
Tak sangka sampai boleh jadi gitu kan.

Mak dia exposed budak tu main ipad sejak lahir tau. T_T

Aku borak ngan mak budak tu, sampai nangis-nangis makcik tu cerita kat aku.

Dia cakap saraf-saraf anak dia dah rosak.

Sebab takde rangsangan dan kurang latihan pergerakan masa kecik.

Patutnya masa kecik kan, baby aktif gila nak meniarap la, nak merangkak la, nak lompat-lompat la. Kan?

Tapi sebab parents dia terlalu busy, dan diorang takde pembantu rumah, so dia bagi je baby tu leka dengan ipad 24/7! Hamik kau.

Aku dengar pon macam nak baling lesung batu je kat mak dia. ;D

So bila anak dia dah umur 4 tahun ni, baru nak pergi kelas pemulihan.
Belajar lompat, belajar meniarap, belajar merangkak. Kesian kan?

Sampaikan diorang tak bagi keluarkan apa-apa gadget depan budak tu.

Ada sekali tu, phone aku ada SMS masuk, so aku nak keluarkan la dari beg nak check SMS kan. Tetiba Dr. Sherine cakap kuat-kuat,

“No handphone in front of Alex! No handphone in front of Alex please!”

Gitu.
Takut aku. 😀

Aku ada mintak komen Dr. Sherine tentang gadget-gadget ni. Sebab aku pon selalu je tengok Boboiboy dengan Haikal kat ipad. Hehehehe. So ini jawapan Dr.Sherine, “Takde masalah kalau nak tengok benda in a box ni (ipad, tivi, phone).But make sure not more than 10 minutes at a time.”

Never leave the child and ipad alone. Watch with him. Tengok Boboiboy sama-sama dengan dia, interact dengan dia. For example, kita cakap, Oh Boboiboy is wearing a red cap. Oh there, Boboiboy plays badminton with his friends! Sentiasa interact dengan dia while watching.”

“It’s a good sign when he wants to watch ipad, he asks you to join him. But bad sign when he doesn’t want anyone to disturb or join him while he’s watching. Itu petanda buruk. So always always always be with him and interact with him while watching.”

Ini bahasa mudah untuk faham kenapa ipad, tivi, phone, games tak elok untuk perkembangan kanak-kanak, menurut Dr Sherine:

Bila kita tengok ipad, mata kita tertumpu kepada satu level sahaja.
Tiada pergerakan “rolling” oleh mata.
So bila too much ipad, that means no eyes nerves stimulation.
So lama-lama pandangan anak tu tak luas.
So brain dia pon tak boleh fikir dengan luas/kreatif.

So parents digalakkan supaya banyak stimulate mata baby. How?
Bawak keluar rumah. Look around. Atas, tunjuk sky, tunjuk airplanes.
Bawah, tunjuk grass, tunjuk cat, tunjuk flowers.
Kalau tak boleh keluar rumah, still boleh buat dalam rumah.
Contohnya, boleh guna mainan flash cards ABC tu.
Flash huruf A kat atas, supaya anak dongak ke atas.
Pastu flash huruf B kat bawah pulak.
Pastu flash huruf C sebelah kiri, huruf D sebelah kanan.
Dan sebagainya.
Dengan cara macam tu, automatik ada “rolling” eyes movement.
So bila ada pergerakan mata atas bawah atas bawah camtu,
saraf mata dirangsang dengan baik.

So brain development pon berlaku dengan baik.

3) Stimulate their imitation skills.

Imitation skills ni ialah kebolehan mengikut atau meniru apa saje perkara yang dilihat disekeliling. Contoh kalau anak nampak kita clap hands, dia pon ikut clap hands. Camtu.

Dr. Sherine kata, ini masalah terbesar budak-budak sekarang.

Lack of imitation skills.

So vocab kurang, otak lambat pick-up, etc.

Because language and speech is also an imitation skill,
attitude pon imitation skill,
cara berfikir pon imitation skill,

dan semua-semua tu pon related to brain development.

So parents digalakkan buat kaedah-kaedah macam ni:

Say a word, dan suruh anak ulang.

Lukis satu simple drawing, dan suruh anak tiru.

Buat mimik muka macam nangis, senyum, gelak, marah dan suruh anak tiru.

Buat satu kerja mudah macam susun bantal atas katil, susun buku kat rak, dan suruh anak ikut.

Nyanyi satu lagu, dan suruh anak ikut nyanyi.

Dance mengikut muzik, dan suruh anak tiru step yang kita buat.

Buat satu pergerakan macam merangkak, lompat, mencangkung, bergolek, dan suruh anak buat sama.Gitu.

Oh lagi satu, Dr. Sherine cakap, pergerakan merangkak ialah sangat-sangat bagus.

Sebab dia melibatkan seluruh anggota badan, dari kepala ke hujung kaki.

Dan menurut kajian, baby yang mengalami fasa merangkak yang lama, dikatakan lebih genius dan berfikiran kreatif berbanding baby yang merangkak sekejap atau tak merangkak langsung (terus boleh berjalan).

Part ni aku terkedu.
Sebab Haikal memang tak merangkak langsung.
Dia tu kan dulu lepas meniarap, terus duduk.
Lepas duduk terus berdiri dan berjalan.
Tapi takpe. Dr. Sherine kata masih belum terlambat.

So sekarang hari-hari aku suruh Haikal jadi tiger.

Sebab nak suruh dia merangkak. Kahkah.

Bila anak jadi tiger, mak pon kena jadi tiger jugak ok.

Imitation skill. Ingat tu.

4) Banyakkan concept toys berbanding mainan superheroes, monsters, etc.

Concept toys tu macam, ABC 123 blocks, Lego, animals (yang realistic dan senang nak recognize), shapes blocks, vehicles, colour blocks, etc.

Sebab benda-benda ni boleh tambahkan vocab anak.
Plus boleh belajar sambil bermain.
Dr. Sherine kata, avoid belikan mainan-mainan yang tak realistik.
Macam barbie doll, superheroes dalam tivi, monsters, etc.
Sebab masa bermain, dia tak boleh kaitkan dengan dunia realiti dia.
Takut dia terlebih taksub dengan dunia yang fantasi tu pulak.
Macam tak elok sangat la kan. Padahal aku pon banyak je belikan Haikal mainan otromen.
Siap nak tidur pon, Haikal akan selimutkan otromen.
Mama dia dapat selimut sipi-sipi, sikit pon Haikal tak peduli.

5) Bila nak ajar anak bercakap, ajar word dulu, avoid sentence

Contoh macam kalau kita pergi zoo, kita nak tunjuk elephant kat anak,

better cakap,

“Elephant!”

bukan

“That is elephant!”

atau

“Wow u see that big elephant?”

Camtu.

Unless kalau anak dah hafal animals tu semua, so boleh ajar sentence dengan adjective pulak.

Contoh,

“Tall giraffe. Big elephant. Beautiful butterfly. Yellow bird.”

Avoid guna perkataan “The This That And With etc”.
Direct je cakap “Big tiger. Beautiful bird.”
Camtu.

Ajar word by word.
Nak ajar budak bercakap kena slowly dan repetitively.

Bila nak bagi arahan pun sama.

Sebut perbuatan itu sahaja. Without a complete sentence.

Contoh,

“Eat.”

bukan

“Come and eat.”
atau
“U must eat.”

“Sit.”

bukan

“Come and sit beside Mama” 
atau,
“Sit and keep quiet.”

Lama-lama budak tu akan cepat recognize, which one is noun, adjective, verb, etc.
Lepas dia dah banyak vocab, baru boleh start ajar buat sentence.

6) Kalau budak takut strangers. Ask them to high-5. Avoid salam, hug or kiss.

Biasanya budak yang takut strangers ni sebab dah banyak kali trauma atau ada bad experience each time jumpa strangers.

Contoh budak yang selalu sakit.
Banyak kali jumpa doctor/nurse yang asyik cucuk atau bagi ubat etc.

So bila jumpa strangers mana-mana pon, dia expect orang tu akan buat pape kat dia.

So macam fobia camtu la kan.

Untuk overcome benda ni, Dr. Sherine tu suggest,

bila jumpa je sesiapa yang anak tu takut,

Suruh orang tu high five dengan anak kita tu.

Biasanya kalau kita jumpa kawan ke saudara mara ke, mesti diorang nak pelok cium salam anak kita kan?
So kalau anak yang jenis takut strangers ni, jangan bagi orang salam pelok terus,
suruh high-5 dulu.

Menurut Dr. Sherine, high-5 is very powerful.
Dia boleh ubah mentaliti anak within seconds.

Bila kita high-5, akan berlaku sentuhan dalam beberapa saat,

dan budak tu akan realize yang orang tu tak merbahaya.

So lepas tu, dia akan ok la dengan orang tu.

Gitu.

7) Bila anak buat salah. Explain instead of marah.

Macam kalau anak main marker pen, conteng satu rumah.
Hoih mahu kau tak hangin kan??
So Dr. Sherine tu kata, instead of marah-marah membebel tak tentu pasal,

better explain clearly kat anak tu kenapa benda yang dia buat tu salah.

Ingat, anak tu tengah exploring his world, bukan sesaje nak cari pasal dengan kita.

Lagi satu, setiap kali explain atau bercakap dengan anak,

make sure mata kita dengan dia satu level.

Melutut depan anak.
Jangan cakap atau marah sambil berdiri,

anak jadi bertambah takut.
Nanti dia tak absorb pon apa yang kita nak sampaikan.

Kalau anak kau baring, kau pon kena baring.

Punya gigih nak mata satu level tadi kan.

8) Overly-attached to one person is not a good sign.

Contoh macam anak tu rapat dengan mak je, dengan ayah tak berapa rapat.

So itu petanda tak bagus.

Something wrong with his self-esteem.

So kena biasakan dia rapat dengan semua orang.
Especially family members.

9) Bila bermain, follow his interest.

Kalau anak nak main ball, jangan tetiba korang nak ajak dia main basikal.

Kalau anak nak melukis, jangan korang nak ajak dia main ball.
Gitu.

Ikut kehendak anak pada ketika itu.

Sebab brain development akan berlaku pada tahap maksima bila budak tu betul-betul interested dan happy buat sesuatu perkara.
Lain la kalau anak mintak nak main benda bukan-bukan.
Haruslah dimarahin dong.

10) Bagi pilihan jawapan untuk enhance communication skill anak

Contoh bila kita bertanya sesuatu kat anak kita,

kalau anak diam je sebab tak tahu nak camane,

jangan biarkan soalan tu tak berjawab.

Kita yang kena bagi pilihan jawapan kepada anak.

Contoh macam kalau kita tanya,

“Kenapa Haikal menangis?”

Tapi Haikal diam je,
mungkin sebab tak tahu nak jawab macam mana.
So kita bagi la beberapa pilihan jawapan, macam

“Haikal jatuh?”

“Haikal sakit perut?”

“Haikal nak ikut papa pergi kerja?”
“Haikal bosan?”

Itu contoh.

Even if dia respon dengan sekadar angguk je pon dah memadai.

At least soalan dah terjawab.

Dan lama-lama kang dia tahu la nak jawab macam mana if soalan yang sama diajukan di masa akan datang.

Wow, I really learned new things here. Ada certain points which I already know tapi still need to improve.
P/S: No 7 is the most challenging for me. *sigh*
-Pu3-

Vaccinations

I was reading this today.
Very controversial.

BARELY SUPERMOMMY

Dear mommies..

Here is the article regarding vaccination by Dr Zahilah Filzah, a pediatrician of Sg Buloh Hospital as promised. I hope you’ll take time to read this article. She wrote a very precise, nice article about vaccination and I really hope we can convey this message to all mommies out there. If you have any question, please write on the comment section. Dr Zahilah or me myself will try to answer your question. I know some people are very ‘hardcore’ and can be emotional about this vaccination issue. Please don’t bang each other. We are adult and all of us has our own opinion. Don’t judge others who does or doesn’t want to give their child vaccination. We as medical providers, our job is to educate the public based on our knowledge as a doctor and Muslims.

Enjoy. And think!!

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Dear BarelySupermommy readers,

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Green tea

Another healthy habit I’ve been trying for a weeks now is drinking green tea. I am not a coffee drinker. I’m a hot choc kinda girl. Tea is okay for me although I’m not a fan. But when I read about the benefits of green tea, I thought of giving it a try. Green tea ni rasa dia bland and I don’t put sugar so lagi la taste-less. But for the benefits of it, telan saja lah.

So far I beli Green Tea brand Boh but I’ve been told that the Japanese brands lagi bagus. Dunno how true is that but maybe I’ll give it a try later. Kasi habis stock dulu ye.

Found this article on the net. Credit here.

I’m a green tea drinker.

Not for the love of the taste — no way! I drink it because I’m told it’s good for me…or, to be honest, the real reason I drink it is because I believe it help keeps my weight in check. But recently I decided to look into it a bit deeper and see what are all these other benefits of green tea people talk of.

Why Green Tea?

Green tea has been used as a medicine for thousands of years, originating in China but widely used throughout Asia this beverage has a multitude of uses from lowering blood pressure to preventing cancer. The reason that green tea has more health benefits attached to it than black tea is (apparently) due to the processing. Black tea is processed in a way that allows for fermentation whereas green tea’s processing avoids the fermentation process. As a result, green tea retains maximum amount of antioxidants and poly-phenols the substances that give green tea its many benefits.

Here’s a list of some of its amazing benefits — benefits that you may not have been aware of. Some of these benefits are still being debated, so please do your own research if you want to use green tea for medicinal purposes.

  1. Weight Loss. Green tea increases the metabolism. The polyphenol found in green tea works to intensify levels of fat oxidation and the rate at which your body turns food into calories.
  2. Diabetes. Green tea apparently helps regulate glucose levels slowing the rise of blood sugar after eating. This can prevent high insulin spikes and resulting fat storage.
  3. Heart Disease. Scientists think, green tea works on the lining of blood vessels, helping keep them stay relaxed and better able to withstand changes in blood pressure. It may also protect against the formation of clots, which are the primary cause of heart attacks.
  4. Esophageal Cancer. It can reduce the risk of esophageal cancer, but it is also widely thought to kill cancer cells in general without damaging the healthy tissue around them.
  5. Cholesterol. Green tea reduces bad cholesterol in the blood and improves the ratio of good cholesterol to bad cholesterol.
  6. Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s. It is said to delay the deterioration caused by Alzheimer’s and Parkinson’s. Studies carried out on mice showed that green tea protected brain cells from dying and restored damaged brain cells.
  7. Tooth Decay. Studies suggests that the chemical antioxidant “catechin” in tea can destroy bacteria and viruses that cause throat infections, dental caries and other dental conditions
  8. Blood Pressure. Regular consumption of green tea is thought to reduce the risk of high blood pressure.
  9. Depression. Theanine is an amino acid naturally found in tea leaves. It is this substance that is thought to provide a relaxing and tranquilizing effect and be a great benefit to tea drinkers.
  10. Anti-viral and Anti-bacterial. Tea catechins are strong antibacterial and antiviral agents which make them effective for treating everything from influenza to cancer. In some studies green tea has been shown to inhibit the spread of many diseases.
  11. Skincare. Green tea can apparently also help with wrinkles and the signs of aging, This is because of their antioxidant and anti-inflammatory activities. Both animal and human studies have demonstrated that green tea applied topically can reduce sun damage.

How Much?

These are some of the many benefits but the reality is one cup of tea a day will not give you all the abundant gains. The jury is out on how many cups are necessary; some say as little as two cups a day while others five cups — and more still say you can drink up to ten cups a day. If you are thinking of going down this route, you may want to consider taking a green tea supplement instead (it would keep you out of the bathroom).

Another thing to point out is that there is caffeine in green tea — so if you are sensitive to caffeine then one cup should be your limit. Green tea also contains tannins (which can decrease the absorption of iron and folic acid), so if you are pregnant or trying to conceive then green tea may not be ideal for you. You can try mixing green tea with other healthy ingredients such as ginger.

For the rest of us with all these abundant benefits…it’s a wonder we drink anything else.

I usually drink green tea kat office. So seldom letak lemon sebab leon kat rumah. But this is not a bad idea--lemon and green tea.

I usually drink green tea kat office. Kat office takde lemon. Tapi letak lemon sedap gak kot.

-Pu3-

Drinking warm water with lemon

Saw this on one of my FB links and thought I want to share it with everyone.

I'm trying this routine for a few months now although it's not easy for me considering my first thing in the morning usually is terkejar2 siapkan anak2 to school & taska.

I’m have been trying this routine for a few months now. Although it’s not easy for me considering my first things in the morning will usually be terkejar2 siapkan anak2 to  school and daycare

Let’s drink up! Start your day right. The recipe is really simple—a cup of warm (not hot) water and the juice from half a lemon.

It’s so simple and the benefits are just too good to ignore. Warm water with lemon:

1. Boosts your immune system 
Lemons are high in Vitamin C and potassium. Vitamin C is great for fighting colds and potassium stimulates brain and nerve function and helps control blood pressure.
2. Balances pH
Lemons are an incredibly alkaline food, believe it or not. Yes, they are acidic on their own, but inside our bodies they’re alkaline (the citric acid does not create acidity in the body once metabolized). As you wellness warriors know, an alkaline body is really the key to good health.
3. Helps with weight loss
Lemons are high in pectin fiber, which helps fight hunger cravings. It also has been shown that people who maintain a more alkaline diet lose weight faster. And, my experience is that when I start the day off right, it’s easier to make the best choices for myself the rest of the day.
4. Aids digestion
The warm water serves to stimulate the gastrointestinal tract and peristalsis—the waves of muscle contractions within the intestinal walls that keep things moving. Lemons and limes are also high in minerals and vitamins and help loosen ama, or toxins, in the digestive tract.
5. Acts as a gentle, natural diuretic
Lemon juice helps flush out unwanted materials because lemons increase the rate of urination in the body. Toxins are, therefore, released at a faster rate which helps keep your urinary tract healthy.
6. Clears skin
The vitamin C helps decrease wrinkles and blemishes. Lemon water purges toxins from the blood which helps keep skin clear as well.
7. Hydrates the lymph system
This cup of goodness helps start the day on a hydrated note, which helps prevent dehydration (obviously) and adrenal fatigue. When your body is dehydrated, or deeply dehydrated (adrenal fatigue) it can’t perform all of it’s proper functions, which leads to toxic buildup, stress, constipation, and the list goes on. Your adrenals happen to be two small glands that sit on top of your kidneys, and along with your thyroid, create energy. They also secrete important hormones, including aldosterone. Aldosterone is a hormone secreted by your adrenals that regulates water levels and the concentration of minerals, like sodium, in your body, helping you stay hydrated. Your adrenals are also responsible for regulating your stress response. So, the bottom line is that you really don’t want to mess with a deep state of dehydration!
-Pu3-